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  • An Unhappy Spouse is an Unhealthy Spouse by Steve and Kathy Beirne - 07/01/14
    When I was first out of college, I worked as a social worker in an adoption agency. My work was called "supervision," but what it meant was that I visited the homes where babies or children had already been placed and checked in on how they were doing.
    Written in: English
  • Seven Ways to Connect for Active Couples - 06/01/14
    Recently Pope Francis spoke about how little gestures and caresses can make a big difference in a couple's marriage. We wouldn't want to disobey the Pope, would we? Another way to make a big difference in marriage is to do special things together.
    Written in: English
  • Marriage That Lasts a Lifetime by Dr. Rob Scuka - 05/01/14
    The engagement parties, the wedding showers, the big day itself, and the honeymoon have all come and gone. They were wonderful, the memories are still fresh, and you want to keep the delight alive as long as you can.
    Written in: English
  • Do you hate your spouse's pet? by Steve and Kathy Beirne - 04/01/14
    We all know about St. Francis and his love for animals. Probably the most significant story was his taming of the wolf of Gubbio, bringing the relationship between the wolf and townspeople from one of fear and violence, to one of acceptance and generosity.
    Written in: English
  • 8 Ways to Make Time for Each Other During the Week by Jeanne Goff Quentin - 03/01/14
    1. Wake up ten minutes earlier to eat breakfast together. You're not getting restful sleep by hitting the snooze button that many times anyway
    Written in: English
  • Body, Hearts and Minds: A Spiritual Journey by Mary Jo Pedersen - 02/01/14
    He likes to sleep with the fan on high. I like the room still and perfectly quiet. He is a thinking type who needs to gather all the facts before making a decision. I like to wing it!
    Written in: English
  • Affair Prevention by Barry McCarthy, PhD - 01/01/14
    Dr. Barry McCarthy presents a frank discussion about how to prevent an extra-marital affair.
    Written in: English
  • My Husband Celebrated Christmas Wrong by Kim Hagerty - 12/01/13
    A spire instead of a star was just wrong and even my mother was no help.

    Pat and I were only married a few days when we had the first serious setback of our marriage.
    Written in: English
  • Married with Baggage: The Brady Bunch Syndrome By Mary Kelly-Williams - 11/01/13
    The second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience. Samuel Johnson

    It takes some real family values to have been married, go through the heartache and pain of divorce, fall in love again, and take on the challenging task of combining children and households yet one more time.
    Written in: English
  • Siblings and your Marriage by Steve and Kathy Beirne - 10/01/13
    We attended a wedding once where the brides sister gave a memorable toast. She said, Todd, as you become Megs husband and therefore roommate, I would like to offer you some advice, since I was her roommate for many years...
    Written in: English
  • He'd Rather Be With His Friends!!? By Sally Hanan - 09/01/13
    It was very late. I lay in our half-empty bed worried, angry, and sad because my husband still wasnt home. Friday night was always his night to go out with friends-I encouraged it because I wanted him to have his male bonding time and have fun without the feeling that I was stifling him.
    Written in: English
  • Together, Crossing the Bridge - 08/01/13
    We arrived home from Hawaii, happy and relaxeda splurge in honor of our first anniversarybut as soon as we unlocked the door of our tiny apartment, my antenna went up. Something Was Not Right. The two red sofa pillows had been rearranged.
    Written in: English
  • Checks and Balances by Christy Scannell - 07/01/13
    Of all the topics engaged couples discuss, I suspect the least amount of timeif anyis spent on how to handle money. Im not talking about those budgeting exercises they give you at PreCana or knowing how you will make your rent or what it will take to pay off your student loans.
    Written in: English
  • The Secret of Happiness by Crystal Sullivan - 06/01/13
    While standing in line for refreshments after mass, I overheard the woman in front of me hiss to her husband, "I thought you said you were trying to lose weight! Why are you taking a donut?" I was shocked at the venom in her voice, and saddened to see how the mans demeanor was instantly deflated by his embarrassment and unhappiness.
    Written in: English
  • Timinig is Everything by Christy Scannell - 05/01/13
    People used to feel sorry for Rich and me because of our work schedules. Now they are envious. If only they knew.
    Written in: English
  • What have you done for your marriage today? by Rick McCord - 04/01/13
    Imagine your marriage as a garden, or a new car, or even as a 401K account. If you didnt devote time and attention to any of these possessions, they would turn to weeds, or develop mechanical problems, or leave you in a financial bind for retirement.
    Written in: English
  • Why Should we give to others? by Paul Goetz - 03/01/13
    When Ronda and I were married two years ago I knew our marriage would be based upon giving to one another. As newlyweds, we made a vow to be there for each other through the good times and bad and vowed to give of ourselves openly.
    Written in: English
  • What I Didn't Know About Marriage by Jo Noetzel - 02/01/13
    And they lived happily ever after.

    Isnt that the line thats supposed to follow, You may now kiss the bride? By the time I had been married a few months, however, it was apparent that marriage wasnt exactly what I had imagined...
    Written in: English
  • Sex is like a box of chocolates by Susan Alessandrini - 01/01/13
    In preparing for this article, I jokingly commented to my sister that Natural Family Planning is like chocolate.
    Written in: English
  • Love the Way Jesus Loves You: The Christian Paradigm of Love in Marriage by Father Britto M. Berchmans - 12/01/12
    A week before his wedding, the groom-to-be asks his best man: :How much does a marriage license cost?" He replies, "Thirty dollars for now and all the money you make the rest of your life."
    There are some people who view marriage more as an expense than as an investment....
    Written in: English
  • Changes and Adjustments: What do you mean I cut the tomatoes wrong? - 11/01/12
    It's that time of year again, when trees slowly lose their beautiful colors and become bare over winter. While I am not sure I am ready for this change, I am equally sure that I have no control over it.
    Written in: English
  • Honeymoon vs Honey gloom - 10/01/12
    Jack and Kelsi really wanted to attend that evenings workshop. Several other couples had cancelled and the weather wasnt very good for traveling, but they said that even if no one else showed up, they would still be there.
    Written in: English
  • Building the Tree House of Marriage - 09/01/12
    Im not a builder by trade. I dont build houses, boats, engines, wooden birdhouses, Pine Derby racecarsor much of anything. Something about blueprints, planning, and that whole "measuring twice and cutting once" concept escaped me in my upbringing.


    Written in: English
  • How to win your wife's heart forever by Scott Haltzman, M.D. - 08/01/12
    I still remember the first time I met my wife. We were sitting across the dinner table from each other at a Mexican beach resort. I leaned over to my friend and said, "I like her!" Once I knew which woman I had my sights on, I made sure she knew how deeply and intensely I was interested in her.
    Written in: English
  • Are You Invisible? by John Bosio - 07/01/12
    Dave and Diane are a couple in their early thirties. Married seven years, they have two children. Dave is a successful professional and Diane works parttime at the local library. They are a normal couple and have many of the same problems that other normal couples have.
    Written in: English
  • How do I Hurt Thee-Let Me Count the Ways. But don't be afraid to read this by Susan Vogt - 06/01/12
    Holy Week is long over but when I am honest, I have to admit that at times my husband Jim and I are indeed a cross to each other. We hurt each other, mostly unintentionally, but sometimes with knowledge, just because "I want my way" or "I think Im right."
    Written in: English
  • Marrying with Stepchildren by Elsie Radtke, MEd - 05/01/12
    Success in stepfamily marriages can be achieved when expectations are kept in check. Remember that both you and your new mate have leadership role in this family.
    Written in: English
  • Keep Your Love Alive by Christy Scannell - 04/01/12
    Rich and I have a good marriage. Yeah, we fight occasionally like anyone else, but we readily admit we're soul mates. The Holy Spirit brought us together.
    Written in: English
  • Trust is the Key to Intimacy by Gerald Foley - 03/01/12
    When asked, What is the most important component of long-term marriages? most married couples answer trust. When we trust another person, we sense that we can afford to be ourselves and to be open rather than defensive.
    Written in: English
  • A St. Valentine's Day Greeting from Francis Cardinal George, OMI - 02/01/12
    Cardinal George reflects on marriage, love, and Valentines Day.
    Written in: English
  • Keep Good Companions by Tom McGrath - 01/01/12
    Rummaging through some old boxes my Mom no longer wanted in her attic, I came across a holy card and smiled. Back in grammar school, each year before summer vacation began, the nuns would hand out holy cards with sage advice.
    Written in: English
  • The Holiday Season-Panic or Peace? by Jo Noetzel - 12/01/11
    When we think of the holiday season, we picture family members around an abundantly laden Thanksgiving table, evenings spent in front of a fireplace, or the happy chaos of loved ones opening gifts under the Christmas tree. Reality can be less idyllic.
    Written in: English
  • See Yourself as God Sees You by Kathleen Chesto - 11/01/11
    My husband and I have been married for thirty-one years. We have been known to tell people we have had twenty-eight wonderful years together. Gratefully, the stormy times never occurred in large chunks.
    Written in: English
  • Good Marriages Don't Just Happen by Dr. Jim Healy - 10/01/11
    A funny thing happened during my first year of marriage. I got married again. No, there wasn't another ceremony, but maybe there should have been.
    Written in: English
  • When the Other Woman is His Job by Christy Scannell - 09/01/11
    Our friend Matt has been working late a lot recently. For the last several weekends, when Matt's kids were eagerly anticipating a game of baseball with him in their backyard, Matt told them he had to go to the office.
    Written in: English
  • Grilling for Relationships by Scott Haltzman - 08/01/11
    Now that summer is here, its time to fire up the grill! And while youre at it, you can throw a few hot coals on your romance, too...
    Written in: English
  • Facebooking Do's and Don'ts for Engaged Couples by K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky - 07/01/11
    You changed your Relationship Status to engaged. You posted Status Updates and pictures about every detail leading up to, during, and after the big question was popped.
    Written in: English
  • Taylor Swift would have been so proud! by Sally Hanan - 06/01/11
    Our first night of all-the-way love was our wedding night, and Taylor Swift would have been so proud of my husband. He had placed tiny boxes of my favorite handmade chocolates on the floor of our hotel room and tied I love you balloons to them.
    Written in: English
  • Breaking Bread: Stepfamilies Bond over Prayer - 05/01/11
    Many widowed and divorced persons remarry for companionship, or satisfaction of emotional needs or even for greater financial security.
    Written in: English
  • Tax Your Relationship by Bonnie Scully - 04/01/11
    Its April! Its springtime! Its tax season.

    There is something so invigorating about springtime. After the cold, dark nights of winter we begin to see the signs of new life.
    Written in: English
  • Who's Body is it Anyway? by Lana Straub - 03/01/11
    Its hard to imagine as a newlywed, but marriage can be difficult. Over 40% of Christian marriages end in divorce. But yours shouldn't be one of them.
    Written in: English
  • An Unusual Anniversary Gift by David Minelli - 02/01/11
    God works in mysterious ways....one person's procrastination about taking a frame apart leads to a special anniversary gift!
    Written in: English
  • Till Death Do Us Part By Lori Nochevich - 01/01/11
    When you're young and newly married, chances are you are not considering the difficulty the words " Til death do us part" truly carry...
    Written in: English
  • My Husband Celebrated Christmas Wrong! by Kim Hagerty - 12/01/10
    Pat and I were only married a few days when we had the first serious setback of our marriage.

    Written in: English
  • Hed Rather Be With His Friends!!? By Sally Hanan - 11/01/10
    It was very late. I lay in our half-empty bed worried, angry, and sad because my husband still wasn't home. Friday night was always his night to go out with friends...
    Written in: English
  • Who Should Come First? by Christina Weigand - 10/01/10
    One thing I learned early on in parenting is that your world should never revolve around your kids. They, as well as you, need to really understand that.
    Written in: English
  • The Secret Meaning of the Blueberry Muffin by Kim Hagerty - 09/01/10
    Ive never liked to share my food. Having someone stick a wet fork in the food on my plate makes me feel sick.

    Keep your fork away from my food.
    Written in: English
  • Starter Marriage or Smarter Marriage? by Frank Hannigan - 08/01/10
    A few years ago I read a book called The Starter Marriage and the Future of Matrimony by Pamela Paul. In it, she chronicles the sad stories of young couples with short-lived marriages.
    Written in: English
  • Here We Grow Again by Reece Wyman Manley - 07/01/10
    As we begin our lives together as a married couple, we feel our mate is "perfect" for us. In that moment in time, everything has led up to building a sense of love, trust and acceptance; the qualities that made you say "I do!"
    Written in: English
  • Build the Bedrock of Your Marriage from One Stone By Elizabeth Turner - 06/01/10
    "Traditions (rituals) are landmarks, stakes in the ground that help us pause and say; 'Remember when?'"...
    Written in: English
  • Building Your Spiritual Life as a Couple by Mary Jo Pedersen - 05/01/10
    He likes to sleep with the fan on high. I like the room still and perfectly quiet. He is a thinking type who needs to gather all the facts before making a decision.
    Written in: English
  • Forgiveness is a Gift You Give Yourself by Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW - 04/01/10
    Are you someone who walks around feeling angry with your spouse or loved one much of the time? Do you have a little inner voice that constantly reminds you of all of your spouse's wrongdoings?
    Written in: English
  • Are You Living Out of Order? by Elizabeth Turner - 03/01/10
    "Hey! Don't forget Friday night with the Nelsons."

    "Okay. I have Pilates Tuesday after work and I really need to hook up with Maria before the end of the week."
    Written in: English
  • Keeping Score by Laura Demetrician - 02/01/10
    We have all heard about a marriage being 50-50. Sounds great, right? Sounds fair, right? If you keep thinking that way, I guarantee you and your spouse will be fighting before the week is out!
    Written in: English
  • Why Should We Give to Others? By Paul Goetz - 01/01/10
    When Ronda and I were married two years ago I knew our marriage would be based upon giving to one another.
    Written in: English
  • Tinsel or Garland? By Paul and Sarah Jarzembowski - 12/01/09
    Tinsel or garland? Real or fake?

    In our first year of marriage, that was our first major argument as a couple.
    Written in: English
  • Married with Baggage: The Brady Bunch Syndrome By Mary Kelly-Williams - 11/01/09
    "The second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience." Samuel Johnson
    It takes some real family values to have been married, go through the heartache and pain of divorce,fall in love again, and take on the challenging task of combining children and households yet one more time.
    Written in: English
  • Keep Good Companions by Tom McGrath - 10/01/09
    Rummaging through some old boxes my Mom no longer wanted in her attic, I came across a holy card and smiled. Back in grammar school, each year before summer vacation began,
    Written in: English
  • The Marriage Map by Michele Weiner-Davis - 09/01/09
    As a long-time observer of relationships, I can tell you that, like children, marriages go through different developmental stages and predictable crises.
    Written in: English
  • What I Did This Summer by Lori Notchevich - 08/01/09
    As the fall quickly approaches, vacations start wrapping up and school list shopping becomes number one on the to-do list.
    Written in: English
  • What's Our Real FOCCUS? by Christy Scannell - 07/01/09
    A couple of months before Rich and I were married I received a startling phone call from our pastor.
    Written in: English
  • And Baby Makes Three by Martha Brockenbrough - 06/01/09
    The wedding industry makes it seem like the day you get married is the biggest day of your life. Ha! It's not even close.
    Written in: English
  • Fighting Fair in Love and Marriage by Lynn H. Turner, Ph.D. - 05/01/09
    Ive always been curious about why people (myself included at times) believe that conflict signals problems in a relationship, while the absence of conflict indicates successful relational communication.
    Written in: English
  • The Secret to Enduring Love: Love Alone is Not Enough; Part II by Dr. Rob Scuka - 04/01/09
    Building off the two insights I shared last month, that a lasting marriage requires trust and the long term success of a marriage involves employing a set of relationship skills,...
    Written in: English
  • The Secret to Enduring Love: Love Alone is Not Enough; Part I by Dr. Rob Scuka - 03/01/09
    With Valentines Day a distant memory, our thoughts and emotions have recovered from the excitement and expectations associated with romantic love: ...

    Written in: English
  • A St. Valentine's Day Greeting from Francis Cardinal George - 02/01/09
    My own take on St. Valentines Day is influenced by the fact that its the anniversary of my baptism.
    Written in: English
  • What's Your Couple Sexual Style? By Barry McCarthy, Ph.D. - 01/01/09
    The core of a satisfying, secure marriage is respect, trust, and commitment. The role of sexual intimacy is to energize your martial bond, and to reinforce feelings of desire and desirability.
    Written in: English
  • Keep Your Love Alive by Christy Scannell - 12/01/08
    Rich and I have a good marriage. Yeah, we fight occasionally like anyone else, but we readily admit were soul mates. The Holy Spirit brought us together.
    Written in: English
  • Are You Invisible? by John Bosio - 11/01/08
    Dave and Diane are a couple in their early thirties. Married seven years, they have two children. Dave is a successful professional and Diane works parttime at the local library.
    Written in: English
  • Together, Crossing the Bridge by Paula Huston - 10/01/08
    We arrived home from Hawaii, happy and relaxed – a splurge in honor of our first anniversary – but as soon as we unlocked the door of our tiny apartment, my antenna went up. Something Was Not Right.
    Written in: English
  • What I Didn't Know About Marriage by Jo Noetzel - 09/01/08
    "And they lived happily ever after."
    Isn't that the line that's supposed to follow, You may now kiss the bride? By the time I had been married a few months, however, it was apparent that marriage wasn't exactly what I had imagined it would be blissful, harmonious, and stress-free all the time.
    Written in: English
  • Dreams Diverted by Laurie Spellmeyer - 08/01/08
    Though most of us spend a lot of time and energy planning our wedding day, we can never totally plan or be prepared for our marriages.
    Written in: English
  • The Newlywed Hibernation by Laura Demetrician - 07/01/08
    We have all seen it. Our friend starts dating (or maybe you start dating). Then this seriously dating friend suddenly becomes engaged, which leads to an elaborate wedding, honeymoon, and married life. So many promises and explanations are made during the whole drama.
    Written in: English
  • NEWS FLASH: FIANCEE GIVES UP RING FOR COW! by Monica Mendez Leahy - 06/01/08
    When I read a story about a bride who turned down bling for a bovine, I thought, There's a woman after my own heart! Being the practical sort, she convinced her groom-to-be that a diamond ring would serve no purpose in their future lives as farmers.
    Written in: English
  • The Five Dimensions of Touch: The Key to Bypassing Sexual Power Struggles by Barry McCarthy, PH.D - 05/01/08
    Far too many married couples fall into the power struggle trap regarding touching and intercourse. The positive role of sexual intimacy is to energize your marital bond and enhance feelings of desire and desirability.
    Written in: English
  • Checks and Balances by Christy Scannell - 04/01/08
    Of all the topics engaged couples discuss, I suspect the least amount of time if any is spent on how to handle money. I'm not talking about those budgeting exercises they give you at PreCana or knowing how you will make your rent..
    Written in: English
  • The Bride Without Shoes by John Bosio - 03/01/08
    November 18, 1972. It was the day after our wedding. I remember driving on Interstate 70 east, away from Kansas City toward the Lake of the Ozarks in Missouri...
    Written in: English
  • Why can't my spouse be more like me? by Drs. Tom and Beverly Rodgers - 02/01/08
    This month, Dr. Bev Rodgers draws on her expertise as a marriage counselor to show that couples who attend marriage sessions early in their relationship can learn to grow together rather than apart.
    Written in: English
  • Mentor Couples: Another Gift for Newlyweds by Krsnanandini Devi Dasi and Tariq Saleem Ziyad - 01/01/08
    We had been married just three months when some issues surfaced that we could not seem to resolve, Sheree confided. We were stumbling in the dark and needed some help...
    Written in: English
  • My Husband Celebrated Christmas Wrong by Kim Hagerty - 12/01/07
    A spire instead of a star was just wrong and even my mother was no help.
    Written in: English
  • The Secret to Happiness by Crystal Sullivan - 11/01/07
    While standing in line for refreshments after mass, I overheard the woman in front of me hiss to her husband...
    Written in: English
  • Timing is Everything by Christy Scannell - 10/01/07
    People used to feel sorry for Rich and me because of our work schedules. Now they are envious. If only they knew!...
    Written in: English
  • What Have You Done For Your Marriage Today? by Rick McCord - 09/01/07
    Imagine your marriage as a garden, or a new car, or even as a 401K account. If you didn't devote time and attention to any of these possessions, they would turn to weeds...
    Written in: English
  • Trust is the Key to Intimacy by Gerald Foley - 08/01/07
    When asked, What is the most important component of long-term marriages? most married couples answer trust...
    Written in: English
  • Building the Tree House of Marriage by Matt Turvey - 07/01/07
    I'm not a builder by trade. I don't build houses, boats, engines, wooden birdhouses, Pine Derby race cars or much of anything...
    Written in: English
  • Grilling for Relationships by Scott Haltzman - 06/01/07
    Now that summer is here, its time to fire up the grill! And while youre at it, you can throw a few hot coals on your romance, too...
    Written in: English
  • I Need a Lover That Won't Drive Me Crazy by Laura Demetrician - 05/01/07
    I was driving to work today with the radio on. A familiar but sadly accurate relationship song by Pat Benatar came on, and I found myself singing...
    Written in: English
  • Marriage that Lasts a Lifetime by Dr. Rob Scuka - 04/01/07
    The engagement parties, the wedding showers, the big day itself, and the honeymoon have all come and gone...
    Written in: English
  • Sex is Like a Box of Chocolates by Susan Alessandrini - 03/01/07
    In preparing for this article, I jokingly commented to my sister that Natural Family Planning is like chocolate. How so?...
    Written in: English
  • And They Lived Happily Ever After by Crystal Sullivan - 02/01/07
    Once upon a time, in a restaurant in downtown Chicago, a handsome man and a beautiful woman were deep in conversation...
    Written in: English